#1. Give up your need to always be right.
There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it.
Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be rich and happy?”
What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?
#2. Give up your need for control.
Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, co-workers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better that will make you feel.
“By letting it go, all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu
#3. Give up on blame.
Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel.
Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.
#4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk.
Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
#5. Give up your limiting beliefs
Your beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible.
From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind.” Elly Roselle
#6. Give up complaining.
Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, many things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed.
Nobody can make you unhappy; no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to.
It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it.
Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it.” Lou Holtz
#7. Give up the luxury of criticism.
Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you.
We are all different, yet we are all the same.
We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood.
We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
“Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing it is stupid.”
#8. Give up your need to impress others.
Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way.
The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
“The biggest challenge in life is to be yourself in a world that is trying to make you like everyone else.”
#9. Give up your resistance to change.
Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Your life does not get better by chance. It gets better by CHANGE.”
“If you focus on results, you will never change. If you focus on change, you will get result.”
#10. Give up labels.
Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little.
Minds only work when open.
“The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer
#11. Give up on your fears.
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn't exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind.
Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt
“Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” Jack Canfield
#12. Give up your excuses.
Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use.
Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.
“Excuses are lies wrapped up in Reasons.” Howard Wright“ Reasons or Results!”
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Contributor. Cynthia is a Public Speaking and Communication Trainer. She is also the founder of The Success Factory.