When I was 12, I asked my dad how to live a good life. He replied, “Life is all about taking a chance. You will hit some; you will miss some. If you want a life worth living, then you must be prepared to do the right things you are afraid of doing.”
Well, look around you – look at all these successful, happy and fulfilled souls whom you know. Are they always successful? Not necessarily, do you agree? Most have their messed up moments, too – just like you, right?
When someone tells me the reason they are not doing public speaking is because they fear being judged; concerned about being ridiculed for mistakes; worried for not being perceived as a capable person – what they are telling me is that they are not willing to take the risk to make a stand for their message or for themselves.
I figured out if “normal” human beings have such fears, concerns and worries, then the “experts” will surely have them, too.
It took me really long to find out these 3 KEY Distinctions that separate an Expert Speaker from Normal Speakers.
Distinction #1: Normal Speakers concerned about themselves whereas Expert Speakers concerned about others
Most normal speakers think about perfecting their scripts; dressing to impress on stage and using techniques and skills to wow their audiences during their presentation. Experts spend most of their time figuring out what the pain points in their audiences’ lives are and how their presentation can make a difference to them.
In short, normal speakers speak for their personal gain and expert speakers speak for the gain of a group or a community.
I have been and done both normal speaking and expert speaking presentations before and I will always, always prefer to train myself to be an expert speaker all the time, every single day. The reason is simple – I am more useful when I know how to use my message to make a difference in someone else’s life, period.
Distinction #2: Normal Speakers speak to Motivate whereas Expert Speakers speak to Inspire.
Do you know the difference between motivation and inspiration? Both are important elements to success and one of them has longer lasting feeling than the other, guess which one is that?
The difference between motivation speaking and inspiration speaking lies in how much the speaker equips their audience to do something new after learning from the presentation. Experts empower their audience to take a chance to step forward, whereas normal speakers just don’t have such ability to do so.
Have you been to a presentation where you felt super charged up for 3 or 7 days and then, the entire motivation to change your life died off?
Similarly, have you been to a presentation where the speaker only needed to tell you ONCE what you could do and (boom!) that changed your life?
Distinction #3: Normal Speakers Speak Words; Experts Speakers Live Into Their Words
The picture sums it all up, do you agree?
By speaking in front of a group of people, you are taking a chance to tell your audience what you are standing up for. You are taking a risk to inspire a change. This is why it is so important that you are saying what you do – because your audience can definitely see through those content you are fluffing it up.
I hope these 3 KEY Distinctions will inspire you to step up to inspire your audience when it is your turn to speak next.
Serving you from the stage,
Founder of Great Presenter Workshop
The Success Team
Energetic bunch of entrepreneurs who cannot sit still!
Contributor. Cynthia is a Public Speaking and Communication Trainer. She is also the founder of The Success Factory.